Sometime before Christmas I sent a note. One
of the reasons was to let that person know that they are worthy of the time and
the effort to send a piece of paper through the mail. To give a moment of
reflection, and to get something in the mail other than junk or a bill. We
seldom get these anymore and it is a good habit to begin anew.
Sometime before the list of people that we send
cards to and get cards from, shift the paradigm. Think of the one that you
think of often and send anything to seldom. Think of those that have been
in the “year of firsts”. You know, the first “something” after the event
that forever changed their lives. Regardless if it is a marriage or a
birth, a divorce or a death, their lives are rolling through the list of
“firsts” and it is different for them. It could be the same for
you. Your first day of retirement or limping with the new set of
circumstances from the last bit of trauma. We all know someone in this
place. The “First” something is not the last by any means. It will
always have an anniversary that will come around.
Sometime before Christmas is a time of unexpected
surprise. To be thought of with no sense of obligation or
prompting. Simply to be “worthy” of the thought. Write it
out. Use good paper. Place with care the thoughts and wishes of your
heart. Don’t worry about penmanship or spelling errors, they will be forgiven
in light of the gift of your time and the effort you took to simply acknowledge
their value. Tell of the value of their being in your life, simply by
being in your life.
Sometime soon, as time gets away from
us. Fill your calendar with random “to do” items like this. Buy a few
nice cards and take the short time for a short note and then continue with your
day. The curious thing is that as you begin this habit of “Value telling”
you will find names coming to mind randomly through the weeks going
forward. “I need to send a card to…” will cross your mind. If you
have the cards at hand, it will go swiftly and take little time at all, and the
message will be of great merit. More than you will know. You will
stand out all the more as it is so seldom done, even as you speak of the
friendship of the one to whom it is sent.
Not long after will be the awareness of the
desire to receive one in your mail. Perhaps it would be a good time to do
just that. Send a note to yourself and remind yourself of the forgiveness
for the thing you were weak on. Hope for the future. Value to the
world for the willingness to arise from the day full of struggle and pain and
continue anyway. You too are worthy of this awareness. Sometimes we
need to tell ourselves again. The strength of humility is the companion of
wisdom. Do not puff or lie to yourself, but be certain that you are honest
about your value as well as your “growth points” going forward. It is ok,
your “knower” already knows.
Sometime later will come a call, and a story. The right
thought. The right timing. The right gift of tenderness. Listen well and
be accepting of their story and their appreciation. Little thoughts that
carry a large value. Larger than you will ever know. Perhaps that is
the point, because you don’t need to know. You are the actor and not
passive in this world. Do. Then Do again. Lead, even if it is only
your own life. It has a magnetic effect on others. Perhaps to
attract. Perhaps to repel. Always to move.
Sometime before Christmas. Perhaps now.